Finding Play Partners?
Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2018 2:28 am
For those who found a regular play partner, how'd you go about finding them? I'm currently on the search but I think this will help others.
I ask since while I have years of self bondage experience I'm still a bit limited when it comes to playing with others.... Also, self bondage isn't quite the same as playing with others anyway. I've met up with a few bondage lover's before and being located in Chicago, 3rd largest city in the US, it shouldn't be that hard honestly but I'm finding it strangely hard for some reason.
I've learned searching for guys from online at sites such as FetLife and Recon can lead to them flaking out when it comes time to meet up or you get guy's who never meet up or encountering guys who just seem to want an online pen pal (they could possibly be catfishers or fake profiles though). Maybe they're skiddish and have never met someone for bondage before? All part of the game but it get's to be frustrating after a while.
Those who did show up and I've met up with have been mostly good experiences for both of us but they're one and done meets since being in a large city there's always other guys distracting them which makes it hard to find regular play partners who can meet up more than once.
I've been to a kink club here once but the environment was very cliquey and if you didn't know anyone there you'd have a hard time making contacts and aren't on their radar when private play happens. I understand since trust is crucial for the bondage community but it is a bit discouraging still....
Kind of envious of those who have regular play partners and look at their fun pics they post online wondering "how did you guys find eachother?" such as the recently closed TiedGuyUK. And I think he lived in a sleepy little English town too but still managed to do well with regular play. Gay btw but I think others have similar frustrations no matter what their orientation is.
So for those who found a regular play partner how'd you find them?
I ask since while I have years of self bondage experience I'm still a bit limited when it comes to playing with others.... Also, self bondage isn't quite the same as playing with others anyway. I've met up with a few bondage lover's before and being located in Chicago, 3rd largest city in the US, it shouldn't be that hard honestly but I'm finding it strangely hard for some reason.
I've learned searching for guys from online at sites such as FetLife and Recon can lead to them flaking out when it comes time to meet up or you get guy's who never meet up or encountering guys who just seem to want an online pen pal (they could possibly be catfishers or fake profiles though). Maybe they're skiddish and have never met someone for bondage before? All part of the game but it get's to be frustrating after a while.
Those who did show up and I've met up with have been mostly good experiences for both of us but they're one and done meets since being in a large city there's always other guys distracting them which makes it hard to find regular play partners who can meet up more than once.
I've been to a kink club here once but the environment was very cliquey and if you didn't know anyone there you'd have a hard time making contacts and aren't on their radar when private play happens. I understand since trust is crucial for the bondage community but it is a bit discouraging still....
Kind of envious of those who have regular play partners and look at their fun pics they post online wondering "how did you guys find eachother?" such as the recently closed TiedGuyUK. And I think he lived in a sleepy little English town too but still managed to do well with regular play. Gay btw but I think others have similar frustrations no matter what their orientation is.
So for those who found a regular play partner how'd you find them?