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I really want to be tied up by someone other than myself but I'm scared to ask my friend
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I think a lot of us on here have that trouble unfortunately. Where abouts do you live out of interest?
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oZombiex2 wrote: 3 years ago I think a lot of us on here have that trouble unfortunately. Where abouts do you live out of interest?
I dont know what you mean
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How do you think this friend would respond? Are they into bondage?
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Depending on how close friends you are maybe a movie night and pick a film with a scene in it. When the scene comes on make a comment like “I bet I could get out of that” and maybe they will challenge you to try.
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Post by RopeBunny »

You need an in. A way of bringing TUGs into the conversation but possibly without full on asking 'please tie me up.'

(Edited to clarify)

I'm not advocating or suggesting any kind of trick here.

If you (or anyone) has the confidence or ability to ask to be tied up without knowing what response you might get, then well done :D . I however have always felt the need to test the waters, to find a way to bring TUGs into a conversation, to see what response I get.

I'd never do this by means of a challenge. Even if this did work for me it wouldn't be as fun.
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I'm going to disagree with some of the other comments and tell you that if you want your friends to tie you up you should ask them directly. I know its embarassing but lying to them about how much you want it will only cause problems, they'll feel weird about playing into your fantasies if they notice how much you like it and if they don't (which is hard, no matter how you ask them they would probably be able to tell that you like it) you'll find it hard to ask for it again.
Also if you feel like they wouldn't accept if you asked them directly don't bother trying to trick them into it, it'll only make things worse. If it helps you I'd advice you to do something in exchange for them, I won't get to detail but when I had a friend tying me up on the regular I also had to play my part in it,
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I agree with and second [mention]banshee[/mention] Comments
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zora963 wrote: 3 years ago How do you think this friend would respond? Are they into bondage?
Idk
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zora963 wrote: 3 years ago How do you think this friend would respond? Are they into bondage?
I don't think they will have any problem with it
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I follow the advice of some of the other folks here, I would ask your friend directly and say it's something you'd find enjoyable and would appreciate if they did it.
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banshee wrote: 3 years ago I'm going to disagree with some of the other comments and tell you that if you want your friends to tie you up you should ask them directly. I know its embarassing but lying to them about how much you want it will only cause problems, they'll feel weird about playing into your fantasies if they notice how much you like it and if they don't (which is hard, no matter how you ask them they would probably be able to tell that you like it) you'll find it hard to ask for it again.
Also if you feel like they wouldn't accept if you asked them directly don't bother trying to trick them into it, it'll only make things worse. If it helps you I'd advice you to do something in exchange for them, I won't get to detail but when I had a friend tying me up on the regular I also had to play my part in it,
This is a great explanation. Yes you should be honest about it from the get-go, but watching a movie with bondage in it can still help initiate the conversation. It just depends on how you want to go about it. It takes courage to share these things but it is also something that brings personal growth and can benefit you in other ways.
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