Considering that there are probably a ton of lurkers, who might also not have any experience, I want to start with a warning.
BE CAREFUL. SELFBONDAGE CAN BE DANGEROUS. IF YOU DO IT WRONG, YOU COULD PERMANENTLY HURT YOURSELF, OR EVEN DIE.
You might swallow your gag, and suffocate. You might damage yourself with rope or other materials, that are not broad enough and cut your skin. You might get stuck and need help, while noone knows that you do. You might forget to turn of the hearth, and die in a fire. Whatever, there are big risks, as you essentially restrict yourself from moving around freely. Think very carefully about how you will get out, make sure to have an emergency plan and generally think everything through. A bit of fun is not worth it, if you will have permanent damage afterwards, or if you just straight up suffocate.
That said, on to the actual post.
ExcessivelyCurious wrote: ↑3 years ago
Having a pair of scissors (possibly even shears) is quite important in general. In an emergency, you always need to be able to end a scene quickly, and that's a lot harder with self-bondage.
While this is very good advice, it also defeats the whole point of being tied up, at least for me. I have played around with selfbondage a few times over the years, and the initial feeling of rope or tape is great when it is applied. But it never takes long for me to untie myself, because without the feeling of being helpless (which I don't have, I know that I can free myself whenever I want) it just feels pointless.
I did think of a compromise for this. Even a key to cuffs that is frozen is problematic, as you might get a cramp or hurt yourself, being then unable to get free on your own after the ice melted. Just invite a good friend over (someone who has a spare key, or lets himself in to your open door), and do the session a few hours before. Even if you get stuck, there will be someone to help you.
There is, of course, still risk left. But nothing too serious should happen in a few hours, and in the worst case, you would have to suffer some pain for a duration that you know will end in a one or two hours. There is still some risk, but making sure that the friend is really reliable, don't use a gag and turn off everything that might catch on fire should make sure nothing too bad will happen to you. Especially if you use duct tape, which isn't really able to restrict your blood circulation, at least in my experience.
I don't like cuffs, so I never tried to use them with a frozen key. But it recnetly occured to me, that you could also just put the blade of a knife or some scissors in a container with water, and freeze them. Same principle, but now I can also use rope or tape. Just don't forget to freeze the scissors beforehand one time, and see how long it actually takes the ice to melt. I takes way longer than I thought, but trying it gives you control over the amount of time you want to be tied.
I also recently found a way of making a roll of tape stay in a place, so I could just slowly spin around in place and still apply tape with enough pressure to actually tie myself up that way. And while every gag where something is just inside your mouth, is really dangerous and not to be used in self bondage (danger of swallowing, of course), a ball gag, or something that just can't be swallowed, seems not too bad to me. I found out that you can make a knot into a long tie (the thing that men where around their neck, not random bondage material), and then a second knot over the first, it makes a pretty good gag. There will be a lot of material stuck in your mouth, but it is held in place (in the front of your mouth, no less) and can't be swallowed. And, considering the soft material, the danger of a cramp should be small, as you can close your mouth nearly completely.
I still didn't try to tie myself up, with only a frozen pair of scissors to free me after one or two hours, as I'm still scared (but also excited) about the thought of being actually stuck for some time. Maybe I never will, it's still dangerous.
I do want to close with mentioning again that self bondage can be really dangerous. Be careful.
im actually thinking about driving out to her city to get tied up again maybe in a couple months