Finally went to a bondage event
Posted: Fri Jun 16, 2023 1:10 am
After many years of thinking about going to one, I (31M) finally worked up the courage to do it last monday. I was very nervous in the beginning but it ended up being an amazing experience. The people there were very chill, there was nothing sexual going on at all. The event was purely focused on shibari bondage.
I couldn't believe my luck when I started talking to a woman around my age that came alone like me. She had been practising for months and was more than willing to tie me up. She showed me some basic ties, then put me in a full upper body tie but she was going very easy on me because I told her it's my first time. Bratty as I am, I asked her if that's all she got. She ended up redoing the entire tie a few magnitudes tighter and looked at me with a satisfied look after. I then asked her "What about my legs?". I could tell she was kinda shocked that I wanted more as a first timer but she happily obliged. 10 minutes later I ended up in a full hogtie on the floor for around half an hour.
I was always wondering if the things I read about shibari rope bondage are true, how you can enter some kind of trance like feeling, while your body releases endorphins caused by the tight ropes. I can only say, I was not disappointed. I'd even go so far to say I was the happiest I've ever been.
I might have gotten really lucky running into somebody to tie me up, as you are definitely in the minority as a male bottom (sadly). We really connected when we talked after and she told me she had been looking for a regular rope bunny for a while. I am going to visit another event on sunday and I invited her along to tie me up again. She actually said yes. We also spoke about meeting up in private in the future.
To say I am looking forward to it greatly is an understatement. I will also visit a different event later today (she sadly didn't have time for that one) but maybe if I am lucky I will also run into somebody there who will tie me up.
I might post about those experiences as well.
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So my advice to everyone reading this is that, if you have been thinking about going to one of those events, I really recommend you to do so. The entire thing was very wholesome, consent is mandatory for everything you do. I was constantly asked if I was okay and if I was fine to continue by my rigger, and it was the same with all the other people getting tied around me. If I had known it was gonna be like this, I might have worked up the courage many years earlier, but alas anxiety is a bitch.
For the curious ones, I actually have some pictures of me from there being tied up (I also had to consent to them being taken). I took off my shirt because it was very warm, but besides that I am clothed, so it's nothing shocking https://imgur.com/a/rr9q55E
Q&A: (feel free to ask something in a post if you have a question, I will add it to this list)
Q: How did you find the event ?
A: I found this one on fetlife alongside the one I am going to today. The one I am going to on sunday, I found on a website of a local BDSM community in my city (Munich, Germany) It's specifically aimed at people aged 18-40
I couldn't believe my luck when I started talking to a woman around my age that came alone like me. She had been practising for months and was more than willing to tie me up. She showed me some basic ties, then put me in a full upper body tie but she was going very easy on me because I told her it's my first time. Bratty as I am, I asked her if that's all she got. She ended up redoing the entire tie a few magnitudes tighter and looked at me with a satisfied look after. I then asked her "What about my legs?". I could tell she was kinda shocked that I wanted more as a first timer but she happily obliged. 10 minutes later I ended up in a full hogtie on the floor for around half an hour.
I was always wondering if the things I read about shibari rope bondage are true, how you can enter some kind of trance like feeling, while your body releases endorphins caused by the tight ropes. I can only say, I was not disappointed. I'd even go so far to say I was the happiest I've ever been.
I might have gotten really lucky running into somebody to tie me up, as you are definitely in the minority as a male bottom (sadly). We really connected when we talked after and she told me she had been looking for a regular rope bunny for a while. I am going to visit another event on sunday and I invited her along to tie me up again. She actually said yes. We also spoke about meeting up in private in the future.
To say I am looking forward to it greatly is an understatement. I will also visit a different event later today (she sadly didn't have time for that one) but maybe if I am lucky I will also run into somebody there who will tie me up.
I might post about those experiences as well.
---------------
So my advice to everyone reading this is that, if you have been thinking about going to one of those events, I really recommend you to do so. The entire thing was very wholesome, consent is mandatory for everything you do. I was constantly asked if I was okay and if I was fine to continue by my rigger, and it was the same with all the other people getting tied around me. If I had known it was gonna be like this, I might have worked up the courage many years earlier, but alas anxiety is a bitch.
For the curious ones, I actually have some pictures of me from there being tied up (I also had to consent to them being taken). I took off my shirt because it was very warm, but besides that I am clothed, so it's nothing shocking https://imgur.com/a/rr9q55E
Q&A: (feel free to ask something in a post if you have a question, I will add it to this list)
Q: How did you find the event ?
A: I found this one on fetlife alongside the one I am going to today. The one I am going to on sunday, I found on a website of a local BDSM community in my city (Munich, Germany) It's specifically aimed at people aged 18-40