What influences your perception of TUGs and Bondage?

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What influences your perception of TUGs and bondage?

Real life experience
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27%
Discussion forums like tugstories.com
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15%
Porn
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7%
Fiction
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45%
Other
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6%
 
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What influences your perception of TUGs and Bondage?

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I hope the question makes sense... Have fun :D And feel free to discuss!!

What influences your perception of TUGs and Bondage?


Real life experiences - are you one of those people that started off with tugs with personal experiences? Is that still shaping your perception?

Discussion forums like tugstories.com - did you learn about bondage on discussion forums online? Do these sites still guide your thoughts on tugs.

Porn - for some people this is where they first see bondage? Is this what you shape your thoughts around when thinking about bondage?

Fiction - fictional influence should not be disregarded. Many many books, tv shows and movies are peoples first introduction to the world of tugs.


Other - please elaborate if I missed something!
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For me it is fiction.

It started way back when I was 13...

2 fictional series I was reading at the time feautured guys in distress...

The first is slightly obvious - the Hardy Boys. Oh how I loved it when Frank and Joe found themselves in trouble, trussed up and struggling.

The second is a series from my mother language, Afrikaans, Die Rooi Ridder (translated to something like the scarlet knight). Part of the crusades he got caught many times in perilous situations.

In one book, get this, him and his squire tie each other up and try to escape... Practicing for the many times they actually do get tied up!
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In my case I think what had influenced my perception had evolved through the years. As a kid it was obviously media: movies, series, books. The Harry Potter series had his own amount of bondage scenes of course and then there were movies like Aladdin, Sleeping Beauty, Bingo and series like Detective Conan or the 60's Batman where the protagonists got tied all the time. At the time I remember daydreaming that me and my friends would be tied up by some bad guys like the kids on TV.

When I entered my teenage years (an internet became a thing) I started looking for porn and googling terms like "tied", "gagged" and eventually "bondage". My own fantasies went from the plucky kid kidnapped by the bad guys to things that would easily go into the adult section. Around that time I also discovered the old TUG forum, both sites helped me balance the aspects of bondage, the more fantastical and the more realistic.

And finally, in my college years, I discovered certain fetish social sites and started having my first BDSM sessions. Through trial and error and with the help of some great (and not so great) guys, I came to realize what I really like about bondage.

It's all a mixture of my previous experiences. What I like the most of it is the idea of the hero captured, fighting to escape, talking back to his captor and refusing to cooperate. In a way it comes full circle to my childhood fantasies but with a more "adult" (both in maturity and intimacy) spin shaped by my other experiences
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I think I'd have to go with [mention]cj2125[/mention] on this question. I think all the options you have listed have influenced my perception over the years.

Books, TV and movies are definitely where it started. Enid Blyton adventure stories and TV adaptations thereof. I remember asking for specific stories from my children's illustrated Bible based on certain pictures (probably not the desired result of this gift!). Probably lots of other things that I've forgotten. It's still fun when I come across these sorts of scenes in the books and shows I watch nowadays.

Porn was definitely a major factor in elevating things to a more sexual level and showing the full range of things that one could enjoy once bound! I don't think it took that long for my search terms to drop into the realm of 'bound guys' and it's stayed there ever since!

Things stayed in the world of imagination until I broached the subject with my boyfriend (now husband) and we've been exploring things in real life ever since. Thankfully we're both very open minded. Some things translated well into reality and some things didn't but it's fun to try.

It's definitely been interesting reading some of the discussions on this forum and I've also found it interesting reading various blogs on the subject showing how different people get different things out of this area of life.

There's so much stuff out there to stimulate your imagination but it's definitely best when experienced in real life with someone you trust.
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Difficult and loaded question [mention]MountainMan_91[/mention]
This is a great poll, but I believe you might get more accurate answers if you split this up into two different polls (one for Tugs and one for BDSM).

Lots of people seem to think that these two terms are interchangeable simply because BDSM contains the word "bondage" in it.


Porn is not an influencing factor for me, simply because the porn I look up is associated with stuff I already know and like.
In other words, porn does not expose me to anything new. At least it hasn't for a long time now.

Being a fan of the original Bondagefreax videos (some of which are still on the web), I can safely say that internet media in the early 2000s is what had the biggest impact on my perception of TUGs and bondage. It took an idea that peaked my curiosity and interest (bondage) and strengthened it tenfold.

However, BDSM is completely different.

My perceptions of it have changed very little over the course of the last decade.

I was first truly exposed to BDSM through a fictional online novel written by a popular BDSM author named Bob Wingate (an editor for the Bound & Gagged magazine). Tumblr has also changed my perceptions of it. Seeing the predominance of poor, naïve subs handing over their hard earned cash to online cash masters and watching them being exposed to all the crap that's being spouted on there really solidified my desire to become an influencer on the subject.

Sure, Bob Wingate's BDSM tales were mildly educational. But as is the case with most online fiction, the stories were very superficial and didn't really flesh out how the full-time BDSM relationships portrayed in said stories could actually work in real life. The magazine rarely went into detail about the Dom/sub interactions in non-kinky settings.


Having said that, fiction (as in online stories) and internet media (though not necessarily porn) are what influence(d) my perception of BDSM in general.


Since this forum is one of the places where a lot of young/inexperience folk come to read, discuss and explore their kinky side, my number 1 goal on here has been to influence their outlook on BDSM and to provoke serious discussions/debates relating to real life BDSM-related ethical dilemmas, the treatment of subs (outside the bedroom) and other subjects that usually get brushed under the carpet.

Having said that, I voted for "Fiction".
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Pup Wingletang wrote: 3 years ago I remember asking for specific stories from my children's illustrated Bible based on certain pictures (probably not the desired result of this gift!).
Funny you mentioned that Pup, being raised a Catholic I remember looking for illustrations of certain biblical stories and saints. Guess that should also be counted in my childhood media
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Several things do, to a point, but I voted for fiction. That was my earliest influence, and still probably continues to be the biggest influence. I got fascinated with characters getting kidnapped by the villains and having to escape, or be rescued. It started out as just part of an adventure, but as I got older, I started focusing more and more on those scenes by themselves.

The Internet was a major influence starting when I was 18 and looked it up one night due to boredom and curiosity, including this site, way back in the old days of the old blue site that was nothing but stories and no membership. That's also how I got introduced to the idea of BDSM as opposed to just bondage, though bondage is still really what I focus on. I also had some real experiences, some at a young age which probably helped.

But fiction was the first influence and still continues to be the primary influence.
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As a boy, my friends and I were never in to what is called BDSM. TUGs were fun; BDSM was something for those that liked pain, or inflicting pain on others, and that was never really any kind of "turn on" for any of us. At 12-13-14, we were slowly becoming aware of the world, and, at that age, we
thought anyone who liked having pain inflicted upon them, or who enjoyed causing pain to others, had to be some kind of nut.

I've mellowed a bit. My attitude is that what people do in the privacy of their own homes, is their business, and none of mine.

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drawscore wrote: 3 years ago TUGs were fun; BDSM was something for those that liked pain, or inflicting pain on others, and that was never really any kind of "turn on" for any of us.
bondagefreak wrote: 3 years ago
This is a great poll, but I believe you might get more accurate answers if you split this up into two different polls (one for Tugs and one for BDSM).
I realize the confusion in my question and updated it accordingly. :D

The poll is meant for bondage interest, not the greater BDSM community.

Thanks for your insights guys!

I agree with you [mention]drawscore[/mention] it took me a few years to get past the 'perception of pain' linked to BDSM.

I am first and foremost a bondage lover! The greater BDSM environment has a myriad of interests and turn ons, but better left to another discussion 8-)

Anyhow thanks for sparking conversation... :D
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I learned at a young age that I wanted to enjoy the feeling of being tied up. I eventually started googling things involving tie ups and learned what bondage really was as I got older. My interests in BDSM eventually evolved and I had interests in more than simply being put in simple bondage once I started learning more about it. I guess the internet would be my answer?
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It's mostly influenced by fiction for me, although porn and discussion boards have also had impact. Real life has never been a big factor for me- I don't have any influential bondage experiences in my past, and have never really had the opportunity to experiment.
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rattybat wrote: 3 years ago Real life has never been a big factor for me- I don't have any influential bondage experiences in my past, and have never really had the opportunity to experiment.
You missed the adventures of youth. Cowboys and Indians, and variations thereof; Cops and Robbers; Hide and go seek, (which morphed into "Tie and go seek), acting out the adventures of the kids we saw on TV and in the movies, cub scout and boy scout initiations, dares, challenges, and so on.

Maybe I was lucky, growing up at the right time, and in the right place, but I remember that between 9 and 15, my friends and I tied each other up a lot, but it was all fun and games.

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Hey [mention]Corn Boy[/mention] yeah I can't imagine what the fetish and kink scene was like pre-internet! The web has truly expanded horizons.

[mention]rattybat[/mention] I know exactly what you mean. I also have very very limited real life experience.
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I voted for fiction, my first exposure to bondage, was in a book, a simple story about a princess being kidnapped, she was pictured bound and gagged, lay on the floor, struggling. I was hooked. 8-) From then on it was comics, TV, and films, watching for any bondage scenes. Then the internet came along, so bondage images, became easier to come across. I know what I like now, I don't wander far from my desires or taste in bondage, although I will always look out for something that is different, just in case it gives me some ideas. :)
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I voted fiction. Even though i had real "experiencies" in the past (wich is just holding girls arms behind their back) i actually started seeing videos of anime girls being tied up in youtube(wich were just fanart compilations with music).
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Probably fiction. I'm always thinking of scenarios that involve me getting tied up or binding/gagging others. Always looking for a different angle.
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From what I've seen, the largest influence has been fiction - books, comics, TV, and movies; with a little bit of real life tossed in - childhood and adolescent games, plus dramatizations of actual events on movies and TV.

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For me, it was TV, cartoons and movies that got me into the notion of "hey, being tied up looks fun!". But I say this finding this site back in the old asstr.org days of 02-04 made me realise it wasn't just a weird thing that only I was into and that others enjoyed it too.

So can I vote twice? :D
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What chance did i have when I was brought up watching Emma Peel, Lady Penelope and other such wonderful DiDs - Strong/action women.
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I learned from fiction stories I read online, but afterwards it's mostly my imagination coming up with various scenarios :D
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I have a hard time voting in this one (assuming anyone is reading these still) because a lot of my influence is visual, from photos, videos, and art, and I don't consider any of that as "porn". In fact I'm the one always screaming bondage isn't porn!! And TUG's certainly aren't porn, and I love playing tie-up games, not that I get the chance much anymore . . .
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Happytie wrote: 3 years ago What chance did i have when I was brought up watching Emma Peel, Lady Penelope and other such wonderful DiDs - Strong/action women.
Yeah, and Lady Penelope never did get too much rope action, did she? And never gagged, that just ain't right :)
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BondoFox wrote: 2 years ago In fact I'm the one always screaming bondage isn't porn!!
This is such a great statement it is making me think!

That is exactly why this poll is there to share ideas. Personally I was introduced to bondage through porn.

BUT you are 100% correct, it shouldn't be considered as porn in itself. There is a way bigger picture!

You have opened my mind a little and I thank you!!
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MountainMan_91 wrote: 2 years ago
BondoFox wrote: 2 years ago In fact I'm the one always screaming bondage isn't porn!!
This is such a great statement it is making me think!

That is exactly why this poll is there to share ideas. Personally I was introduced to bondage through porn.

BUT you are 100% correct, it shouldn't be considered as porn in itself. There is a way bigger picture!

You have opened my mind a little and I thank you!!
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Sure, bondage can Be used in porn, but it's usually used as a means to an end. The girl is robbed in her home or kidnapped or taken hostage and she needs to be secured so she can't get away, and shut up so she can't attract attention or bother her captor. That's what separates bondage from DiD -- Damsel in Distress for those of you in Rio Linda -- she's tied and gagged for a reason. And the end game is that we all know that in the end, she's going to be rescued! Maybe she's had her clothes torn, maybe she had a hand here or there where it wouldn't have gone had she not been bound and gagged, but in the end someone's going to find her and get her out of it.

After all, how else could she get robbed or kidnapped again? :D
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Definitely fiction for me from television series (The Wild Wild West, Batman, numerous police and detective shows, westerns) to books (The Hardy Boys, thrillers). From there, I began to tie myself up (13 or 14). I started writing stories (M/M), when I was an adult.
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